ARE YOU AN EXTREMIST? WHEN TWO LAWYERS REASON.

THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR COMMENTS AND PERSONAL MESSAGES CONCERNING THE DI BU UGWU ARTICLE I WROTE HONORING MY MOTHER AND THE LAND OF MY BIRTH NKWERRE. I ESPECIALLY ENJOYED RE LIVING THE MEMORIES JUST LIKE A LOT OF OTHER PEOPLE FROM NKWERRE. I LOVE FACEBOOK, IT CONNECTS ME WITH VARIETY OF PEOPLE THAT I WOULD NEVER DREAM OF MEETING. ESPECIALLY BEAUTIFUL TALENTED YOUNG LADIES.SO YESTERDAY, I WOKE UP TO AN ARTICLE WRITTEN BY ONE OF...
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So yesterday, I woke up to an article written by one of my Facebook daughters. This young lady is smart and beautiful and I waste no time letting her know in my usual way of appreciating others.
When I read her article, I smiled because she reminded me of me a few years ago but yesterday when I read her article, the word that came to my mind was extreme.

I was in shock, that really is a strong word.
As I continue to question why that word was the word I should think of, I decided to do some research on the word extremist.
This is a word that no one will like to be called but in our selfish positions that is who we are.

To start my research,I googled the word "Extremist". It says an extremist is one who has extreme views, one who holds extreme political or religious views. Of course this definition was too elementary for my analytical mind, I decided to deliberate some more on the topic.

So I make my special coffee and coconut oil blend and I nicely invite Tony Iro to do justice to the topic. For most people that know us , inviting Tony Iro to have an intellectual conversation is like giving consent to firework display, as two lawyers, we each try to make the other accept our view even when we are saying the same thing. It is a sight to behold. If you ask most of our friends that went to Law School with us, they will tell you they did not think the marriage would last a month. I guess that is one of the special gifts we enjoy.
So I let him know, the coffee was ready and he sat opposite me and I asked him if he had a minute to discuss a topic with me? He said he did.
I asked him the question. Who is an extremist?

The words that came out of his mouth the next few minutes made me stare at him with admiration, as I said "Chai, this man you sabi book o!". First he went on to give me a definition that was very similar to the definition on google, then further did justice to the definition by saying.
An Extremist is one who is limited by his understanding . He is an intellectually lazy person , fixated on an idea and refuses to see that there could be any other angle to his beliefs. He vehemently protects an idea that is not completely true just because it is his idea.

My mouth popped open, this was one of those times , that someone else provided articulately the words I was searching for. I quickly composed myself and thanked him.

If you hold extreme views in support or against a particular gender, tribe, color, race or group. You are an extremist.

I was honored by the responses that I received on the Di bu UGWU article, some wrote their comments on the thread. While others inboxed me, I am not an advocate for any gender and I do not think that is what the article is about.
The article is about the left and the right making attempts to move to the center.
Most times we have to understand the message beneath the story.

Di bu ugwu knew what a man needed and she gave it to him. Every man needs respect, they need love too but love is not the most important thing to a man. Because of the egotistic nature of man, what fuels him is respect especially in public. In your private moments with a man, his wife can do anything she wants to him and he will not be offended. Now a man that feels respected by a woman will love that woman, the way the Lord has commanded him too. Are there exceptions to the love and commandment rule? Yes as with every other thing. You cannot because of the few exceptions fault these rules.
A wise spouse is one who knows that if I give him what he/her desires he/she will give me what I desire.it goes both ways.
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"Nwa muo emegbule nwamadu, Nwa madu eme gbule nwa muo"
I am against unfair treatment of any man or woman.   
I advocate for fairness and balance.
We take feminism too far, this is a battle that women are winning already, the world is evolving and things are naturally changing.
We do not need to be too extreme in our views .
Can the left and right move a little towards the center? If you do not then you are an extremist.
Be enabled!   
Chi chi Iro.

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