THE ENABLED LIFE.
FIT FOR A QUEEN.
I AM ENOUGH.
Sometimes, I think that those that read my work, do not really understand me fully. I will help you out.
I am actually full of strength and Energy. I am a perfectionist, you do not need perfection to do things well.
I laugh when people refer to me like I am an accident waiting to happen. This is my life, I have accepted it fully. It is my normal.
Some ask me. How do you cope with things like intimacy, raising children or even every day things? I always say, reading Chi Chi is different from experiencing Chi Chi, Chi Chi is an enigma that will blow my mind.
I want to talk about a topic close to my heart.
Conquering disability the way I have, took a whole lot of doing on my part, it took not bothering about other people's inhibitions when they relate with me but instead welcoming their reservation as an invitation to prove to them that I can. To me, it was not a problem, the problem was proving my abilities became a normal for me, I find it difficult knowing when to stop.
What do I mean? It is very easy for others to blame any short comings I may have on disability. If I ask for any form of assistance or accept assistance from them, they think it is because I cannot do the things myself, so rule one for me has been "Handle your business in all aspects ". For this reason I refuse offers from anyone to cook for me or my family. I usually build a wall around myself when it comes to accepting gestures from others.
One reason is that people gave me things like they are giving a beggar or a dog, some bring the gift in the most despicable packages. Chai!! General rule became no help or gifts here.
Lately, this friend that I call my BFF studied me, she saw that I had an objection to receiving deeds or gifts, she made several attempts but was not able to come through that wall. She did not give up, instead she kept trying.
Today, I will take anything from my friend, food and all acts of kindness. So what did she do differently from others?
She realized I was a queen and treated me accordingly. She even goes overboard at times and I enjoy every moment of it.
Yesterday was valentine and my friend came bearing gifts, all dressed up for the queen.
You know who you are.
God bless you.
I am not challenged in any way in the things I do, Yes! I have cerebral palsy and so what? It does not change who I am, the beauty I possess in and out. My desires are the same as that of every body else.
I have cerebral palsy, I am very capable of running my own life. I cook, I clean, I take care of my life just as you do in my unique way.
I have cerebral palsy, it does not make me a beggar, do not come before me making propositions that are unreasonable. Do not be-little me when you relate with me.
I have cerebral palsy but I am not cerebral palsy.
If you must give to me, present it like you would to a queen, no unworthy gifts allowed her, no disrespect please.
If you cannot oblige, then keep it to yourself.
I have cerebral palsy but I am a queen.